Rain drops on rope

Cutting the Ties that Bind

I frequently use this wonderful technique in work on Relationships.  It can be used in any relationship – even with someone who is deceased.  Psychotherapist and author Phyllis Krystal. created this technique and wrote several books about it.


Unconditional love doesn’t create any ties, conditions or expectations from one person to the other.

Unfortunately love that is unconditional is a rarity. For instance, many people carry the scars of an overprotected, over-controlled childhood.

Love was conditional upon pleasing their parents or guardians.

In conflicted relationships, energetic ropes like chords form between two people. Deadening constraints are placed upon them by issues such as anger, manipulation, victim or guilt. In this way, both people become bound by these issues and are prevented from moving forward with their lives.

Connecting to your Will and Intention

These constrictions can be severed by using the technique “Cutting the Ties that Bind”.  This highly focused technique connects you to your Intention and Will.

Above all it creates great clarity around how you want YOUR life to develop.

You set yourself free from the burdensome expectations of others. You experience greater freedom and independence.

“Love” that’s like a Business exchange

Many people suffer the negative effects of relationships.  Often “love” was only given if they behaved in a certain way.  In these instances, “love” is confused with need.  For example, one person will try to manipulate the other for their own selfish ends. Why do they do this?  Because they’re acting from their own fear and pain

In this way constricting binds and conditions are imposed that stop people from living their own lives.  Above all, conditions are set down to prevent them making their own decisions and finding their own destiny.

In-between trees in forest

People in a deadlocked relationship experience great results when this technique is used by them both.  Immediately a greater autonomy is enjoyed in their lives.  They connect to their own creativity.  Rediscovering who they truly are, they can then move on and experience broader horizons in their lives.

The technique Cutting the Ties that Bind severs these constrictions.  It always results in more freedom and independence for both parties.

Unburdened Love that can Deepen

Sometime people express a fear that they’ll lose contact with the other person.  Above all, they believe that they need these binds.  They believe that they’re necessary to keep their loved ones close to them and connected to their lives.  However the only thing that’s released through this technique are the heavy negativities.  Feelings of anger, regret or lingering sadness actually block the full expression of their love.

In conclusion, they experience directly for themselves that the love that was there at the outset, not only remains, but has becomes stronger.