Self Healing We often attract people who on some level resonate with us even if our outer personalities appear completely different. The more out of touch we are with our true nature, the more likely it is that we’ll attract a partner who is equally unaware of themselves. One person’s unfinished business erupts to clash with the other’s: unresolved jealousies, anger, or grudges from the past, all emerge to haunt them and create even more problems.