Self Esteem & Confidence

So many of us go through our lives burdened by low self esteem. We constantly make negative statements about ourselves. If questioned, many people will tell you of their weaknesses, failings and problems. They have little or no self esteem and confidence. Finding self confidence usually involves identifying these negative beliefs. Then removing them completely! When we examine our negative self statements, we usually find that they have their source in what we were told as children. False Conditioning from the past I once knew a woman who…

Couple standing at water edge

Baggage from the Past I often work with couples whose relationships are floundering.   Their children are the usual reason they are still together.  In most cases, the underlying problem is that they bring to their adult relationship unresolved emotional pain from their past.  It is imperative that they find ways of clearing emotional space between them.  They need to recognise and release the baggage from their past. Many have suffered a childhood which was abusive and traumatic.  As kids the only way they knew how to get by…

Mindful Pregnancy

Releasing Thought Rocks from Conception to Birth Letting go of old Fears From the moment of conception, the developing foetus is being prepared for the world it will be born into. Therefore during the 9 months of gestation in the womb, we are profoundly affected by our parents. Their every mood, emotion and attitude to life is woven into the growing foetus.  In this way, the newborn baby is then ready to face the life situation and environment it will be arriving into. Mindful pregnancy profoundly affects the…

Person running down country lane

Opening up New Horizons The following is an amusing analogy that I came across some years ago – I don’t know who wrote it, but it illustrates how taking responsibility for our thoughts and actions opens out our life to new horizons of possibility: I walk down a street – there’s a huge hole ahead. Not paying attention, I fall in. “Poor me”, I rant and rage. “Who made this wretched hole?“. “How could this happen to me?”. Yelling and screaming, I demand that someone pulls me out….

Psychotherapy & Counselling with Eugenie Heraty - Advanced Professional Psychotherapist and Hypnotherapist

There is a highly effective technique that I frequently use for generating positive outcomes when I feel I’m going to be challenged by a person or situation. This is to simply visualise a Ray of Light shining upon the future event to generate a “Win-Win” situation for all concerned. Many of us face potentially stressful encounters with others; job interviews, business meetings, a confrontation with a friend or family member So much can potentially go wrong! In wanting to clear up a misunderstanding, we can’t find the right…

Close up of pink flowers on tree

Do you notice how young children express their feelings immediately as they arise; they cry/tantrum/sulk as if their world is collapsing and then a few minutes later, they’re smiling through their forgotten tears. Emotions like anger, grief or fear are a normal part of the human experience but often they’re not allowed. How can we ever gain mastery over these emotions if we’re not allowed to connect to what we’re actually feeling in the first place? True maturity lies in learning how to handle our emotions in an…

close up of barbed wire

There are numerous ways past traumas affect our present behaviour; from panic attacks to depression, from phobias to explosive anger. Traumatic experiences, no matter how severe, can be resolved by identifying and working with the deeper underlying imbalances that caused them in the first place. It is said that if we can’t, or don’t want, to deal with emotional pain (and here I include hatred, anger, jealousy, grief), that blocked energy has to “land” somewhere. It is the physical body and in consequence our behavioural patterns that carry the…