Father holding baby to chest

So often the dread of something is far worse than the thing itself. Worrying about sleeplessness, and about how we’ll feel the next day, burns up far more energy than simply accepting it; relaxing and focusing on letting go. Whenever we lack sleep and feel fragile; whenever we feel vulnerable or over stretched, we try to control our lives by mapping out our future. In attempting to “sort things out”, we can fall prey to obsessive “planning” in the small hours of the morning – a time when…

Train tracks between fields

The loss of a loved partner, child, friend or even a beloved animal can leave us feeling bereft, angry and even depressed. We embark on a future without our loved one while surrounded by numerous reminders of their absence. Our everyday lifestyle and actions are seriously affected. Grieving is a PROCESS that we need to go through – it doesn’t just pass away with time nor can it be rationalised away by the intellect.

Person running down country lane

When we release feelings of anger or hatred for another, we free up an enormous amount of energy that then becomes available to invest into other areas of our life. Do you ever notice that when you’re angry or resentful towards someone, your thoughts keep returning to that person or situation, again and again, dwelling on what was said or done, or even plotting revenge? This takes a lot of energy and leaves you with little or no peace. Self judgment always stems from our own unhealed pain….