Eugenie Heraty
Opening up New Horizons
The following is an amusing analogy that I came across some years ago – I don’t know who wrote it, but it illustrates how taking responsibility for our thoughts and actions opens out our life to new horizons of possibility:
I walk down a street – there’s a huge hole ahead. Not paying attention, I fall in.
“Poor me”, I rant and rage. “Who made this wretched hole?“. “How could this happen to me?”. Yelling and screaming, I demand that someone pulls me out. “I’m a poor helpless victim” . “This misfortune has nothing to do with me”. I wait for someone else to pull me out.
It takes a long, long time, but finally someone comes to helps me out
Again, I walk down a street – there’s the same huge hole ahead. I FALL IN!!!
Shouting and screaming I demand “Why me?”. “They should know better than leaving this hole here”. “How am I going to get out of here?”
“What do I need to do to get myself out?”
I finally work my own way out
Walking down the same street – there’s the SAME hole again. This time, I see it, but I fall in anyway!
Feeling really fed up with myself, I determine that this time it will be different. Therefore, I ask myself; “How can I get myself out”? “What did I do to end up down here AGAIN”, “How can I become more aware for the next time”
It doesn’t take long this time, because I remember how I got myself out before.
I walk down the street – there’s a huge hole ahead. However I SEE THE HOLE. Finally,I walk around the hole.
I walk down another street
I’ve just listened to a wonderful inspirational video by Foster Gamble, created of the Thrive documentary. In his blog “Upbeat Evolutionary Perspective Thriving” at around 37 minutes he answers a question about how he deals with his inner conflicts. His reply is so clear, simple and enlightened, it is obvious he has done a lot of work on himself. I believe it is also offers a profound insight into dealing with depression.
Do you notice how young children express their feelings immediately as they arise; they cry/tantrum/sulk as if their world is collapsing and then a few minutes later, they’re smiling through their forgotten tears. Emotions like anger, grief or fear are a normal part of the human experience but often they’re not allowed. How can we ever gain mastery over these emotions if we’re not allowed to connect to what we’re actually feeling in the first place?
True maturity lies in learning how to handle our emotions in an effective, even compassionate way and then move on with our lives, unencumbered.
Emotions are Energy in Motion. So what occurs then when this Energy in Motion is blocked, trapped and stagnated? Physically this shows up as tensions throughout the body; clenched muscles, held breath, damaged digestion and an overwrought nervous system (to mention just a few). Emotionally we manifest a whole range of false behaviours designed to disguise what we’re actually feeling by masking it with something else. Read More
The damage inflicted by negative beliefs
Sometimes in our lives, we find ourselves tormented by cruel, self defeating thoughts. We believe: “I’m not good enough”, “I’m a failure” “I’ll never be as good as John/Sue”, “I’m fat, ugly” etc. These destructive thoughts/emotions always seem to appear when we’re at our most vulnerable; when we’re tired, sick or stressed. Having a life of their own, they can run in an endless repetitive loop at the back of our minds draining us of so much energy. Often the very time when we need our strength and courage the most, these negative beliefs come to torment and diminish us.
Crazy though this seems, we attack ourselves with our own energy!
The Inherited Whip of “Not Good Enough”
Many of us have grown up with a constant barrage of criticism or negative comparisons from a parent, teacher, sibling or peer. Eventually we unconsciously take over these negative, destructive tendencies and continue to berate ourselves. It’s really important therefore to throw down this inherited whip. How do we do this? By becoming conscious of these negative tendency and finding ways to transform these negative beliefs into positive energy.
The HHI’s First Anniversary was a great success with inspirational speakers from varied healing modalities and a great opportunity to hear keynote speaker Tony Buzan, inventor of Mind Maps share his unique insights. Mutual sharing is so necessary among healthcare professionals and provides us all with a great opportunity to learn more about ways we can support our clients.
I gave a brief talk about healing the wounded inner child through hypnosis. The evening overall was a great success. My warmest thanks to Liz Svensson and Sinead Wyse for all their hard work and creativity in bringing Healing Hub International to fruition.
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