Eugenie Heraty
Observing oneself instead of blaming another.
When two people come together, there is initially the exciting “honeymoon” period. They’re getting to know each other. However, after a few months or even mere weeks, the gloss diminishes. This is when the deeper aspects of each begin to surface. But how many realise that seeing their relationships for spiritual growth can be a very dynamic way to develop.
For instance we bring to every relationship, romantic or otherwise, all the unresolved baggage from our own past.
The more intimate the relationship, the more of our fears, anger or insecurities from the past will surface. These emotional limitations rise up from our own deeper layers. Sadly, many potentially great relationships flounder at this stage. It’s as if each person stands on either side of a great emotional mess. Far from being aware of their own pain & limitation, they’re pointing the accusatory finger at the other.
Releasing Thought Rocks from Conception to Birth
Letting go of old Fears
From the moment of conception, the developing foetus is being prepared for the world it will be born into. Therefore, during the 9 months of gestation in the womb, we are profoundly affected by our parents.
Their every mood, emotion and attitude to life is woven into the growing foetus. In this way, the newborn baby is then ready to face the life situation and environment it will be arriving into.
Mindful pregnancy profoundly affects the unborn child
I cannot emphasise strongly enough how important it is for a pregnant woman to take the time to connect to her unborn child. To frequently send loving thoughts to the tiny embryo growing within her. This is far more important than deciding what clothes or bedroom decor to prepare for the infant. Without exception, the pregnant women I’ve worked with say how responsive and alert their infant was as a direct result of tuning into him/her when they were in the womb. Why is this? Because they’ve grown to associate their mother’s (and father’s) voice with sending them love, warmth, and a huge welcome.
Read MoreSo, blessed are the babies who are wanted and warmly welcomed by both parents. This profoundly affects their development in the womb and even helps their brain chemistry to connect in more dynamic ways.
Understanding Grief: Coping with the Loss of a Loved One
The loss of a loved partner, child, friend or even a beloved animal can leave us feeling bereft, angry and even depressed. We embark on a future without our loved one while surrounded by numerous reminders of their absence. Our everyday lifestyle and actions are seriously affected.
Grieving is a PROCESS that we need to go through – it doesn’t just pass away with time nor can it be rationalised away by the intellect.
The Damage Inflicted by Negative Beliefs
Sometimes in our lives, we find ourselves tormented by cruel, self defeating thoughts. We believe: “I’m not good enough”, “I’m a failure” “I’ll never be as good as John/Sue”, “I’m fat, ugly” etc. These destructive thoughts/emotions always seem to appear when we’re at our most vulnerable; when we’re tired, sick or stressed. Having a life of their own, they can run in an endless repetitive loop at the back of our minds draining us of so much energy. Often, at the very time when we need our strength and courage the most, these negative beliefs come to torment and diminish us.
Crazy though this seems, we attack ourselves with our own energy!
The Inherited Whip of “Not Good Enough”
Many of us have grown up with constant criticism or negative comparisons from a parent, teacher, sibling or peer. Eventually, we unconsciously take over these negative, destructive tendencies and continue to berate ourselves. It’s really important therefore to throw down this inherited whip. How do we do this? By becoming conscious of these negative tendencies and finding ways to transform these negative beliefs into positive energy.
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I once listened to a wonderfully inspirational video by Foster Gamble, created for the Thrive documentary. In his blog “Upbeat Evolutionary Perspective Thriving” at around 37 minutes he answers a question about how he deals with his inner conflicts. His reply is so clear, simple and enlightened, it is obvious he has done a lot of work on himself. I believe it also offers a profound insight into dealing with depression.
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